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By: Kelsey Alexander
We aren’t always as nice as we seem. Sure, we may smile and give a girlfriend a compliment, but every so often there is a rush that runs through us of jealousy or contempt. If any of us can let go of our self-righteous pride, we can relate one way or another to the ever so popular “Mean Girls.” We say things just to sound pleasant, but in the very next breath mutter a nasty comment about the same person. We are all guilty of this, and quite frankly, it drives me mad!
Our lives were not intended to be so sour or sweet that it is unbearable to be around. Instead we are to live a life that is full of Christ’s love. He is the one who gives us the endurance and encouragement that we need to face the day. We should all be united through Him as His children, not divided and judgmental.
Recently, I was reading through Romans and  stumbled upon verse four. It hit me so hard, I nearly fell out of my chair. “Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To their own master, servants stand or fall. And they will stand, for the Lord is able to make them stand.” (Romans 14:4) 
Think about it. Who am I to judge? Who benefits from such behavior? And, what authority or power do I have to knock my sister and brother down when the Lord can make them stand?
I have no authority. I have no power. I have no room to judge.
Jesus reminds us that we have to remove the log out of our eyes before we can try to clean out the dust from the eyes’ of our neighbors (Matthew 7:5). Time and time again when we fall, the Lord helps pick us up to give us the strength to keep going. He allows our weaknesses to work for his glory.
Somehow, sometimes, when we are at our lowest point, God is able to make us stronger than we ever imagined. He wants to take you out of the pit and show you hope. That being said, why would we want to interfere with God’s sweet intention for his precious children?
“Therefore let us stop passing judgement on one another. Instead make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.” (Romans 14:13)
Pray for God to remove the jealousy from your heart. Ask Him to fill you with a love that overflows from one person to the next. You might be surprised to see how God will honor your prayers and transform your heart. Let’s be known as a generation of women that builds each other up for the good. Sure, you do not have to, nor do you have time to be best friends with everyone, but you can treat each person with the respect they deserve; we are all designed by a Creator who instilled value into each of us long before birth.
“Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.” (Romans 15:7)
It may take some time, but I promise, darling, that you will see God working in your heart, transforming it beautifully from the inside out. Like a baby learning to walk, practice is involved. You need to physically stand up and take a step. You may be shaky and uneasy, but the Lord will make you stand.
Photo Cred: Chelsea Steller
about-the-authorKelsey Lynn Alexander is an artist at heart. Whether is it through choreography, latte art, or conversation, Kelsey seeks to create and appreciate beauty wherever she goes. She has a passion for helping girls know and understand their value and worth as precious daughters of the most high King. instagram & twitter: @kelsshie_lynn

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