Mission Self-Forgetfulness

Officially starting June 1st I am embarking on a mission to do one very difficult, daunting and never-been-done-by-me assignment: to forget about Allie Marie Smith. Entirely. Or realistically, as much as possible. While still practicing decent hygiene of course.

The most beautiful and emotionally healthy people I know are the most self-forgetful. Sick and tired of my vain, self-centered concerns and inspired by a message I stumbled across through my friends at the True Campaign titled “Blessed Self-forgetfulness” by Timothy Keller, I am reluctant, but committed to give this assignment my best shot. I have compiled a list of 5 challenges designed to annihilate my narcissistic, self-focused alter ego:

1) Log off of FB

While being an excellent way to network and keep in touch with people, Facebook is more often than not a total time-waster for me, rather than a vehicle to network and connect with people I care about. To make sure I don’t give in, I’m having Kayla change my password.


2) Execute the Art of Snail Mail

I’m super excited about this one. Partly because I get to shop for really cute stationary (see, I told you I’m vain!). But mostly because this challenge will motivate me to tell important people in my life how much I appreciate them and value their presence in my life. To really challenge myself I’m going to write 30 notes to 30 different people in my life – one for each day in the month.

3) Avoid the Mirror.
Since I can remember, the mirror has served as a place I turn to for a reflection of my value. And it’s probably the greatest thing reminds me of myself more than anything else. Of course this means little or no makeup and messy hair!

4) Practice the Art of Gentle Interrogation.
For socially awkward-prone people like myself, the art of asking people questions is invaluable. I like Mary Kay’s famous quote “Pretend like everyone you meet has a sign around their neck that says ‘make me feel important.'” Asking questions and engaging in active listening is one of the most effective ways to do this, while also forgetting about yourself. We all want to be heard.

5) Give A Stranger a Shopping Spree

The first weekend of June, I’m attending the Hungry for Hope Conference (Sponsored by Remuda Ranch & FINDINGbalance). I’ve been asked to be on an Author’s panel and as my close friends know, anytime I speak, I feel like I have to have a brand new, impeccable outfit so I “look the part.” Instead of giving in to this temptation, I’m going to refrain from this unnecessary indulgence and instead take a young, homeless women on a $50 shopping spree (all my budget will allow) to the store of her choice.


And whoever desires to be first among you, let him be your slave; just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.” -Matthew 20:26-28

If you can relate to any of my angst, I want to invite you to join Wonderfully Made’s “Mission Self-Forgetfulness.” List your Mission Self-Forgetfulness challenges in the comments section below if you’re down for joining me. I’ll be blogging about my experiences here starting June 1st. Please don’t make me do this solo! xo, Allie

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